When we were young, our parents had their ways of telling us that we won\u2019t always get what we want. There were times that we resented them for it, but as we got older, we realized those denials actually had nuggets of wisdom in them.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s easy to conclude that life\u2019s out to get us whenever we don\u2019t get what we want.<\/p>\n
We blame God, or the universe, whenever we don\u2019t win competitions, fail exams, or don\u2019t get the thing we spent all day and night praying for.<\/p>\n
Blaming God can be an understandable reaction, but it\u2019s disempowering.<\/p>\n
There\u2019s a better way to handle this situation besides blaming God or wallowing in self-pity because life isn\u2019t fair. Read on, and we\u2019ll tell you what it is.<\/p>\n
Be Content with What You Have<\/strong><\/p>\n Have you ever considered that when things aren\u2019t going your way, maybe it\u2019s just life teaching you a lesson about contentment?<\/p>\n Many people think the key to happiness is getting what they want, whether it\u2019s a car, a promotion, expensive clothes, or a million dollars.<\/p>\n There\u2019s nothing wrong with wanting those things, but it raises the question: are we really going to be happy once we get them?<\/p>\n The answer is no. Why? Because how can we be happy with those things if we\u2019re not content with what we already have?<\/p>\n People who are content with what they have don\u2019t stress themselves with what\u2019s \u201clacking\u201d in their lives.<\/p>\n They focus on what they have, not on what they don\u2019t have.<\/p>\n They live each day with gratitude and don\u2019t throw a fit when things don\u2019t go their way. They simply move on with their lives, knowing that something better is on its way.<\/p>\n Take Some Time to Reflect on Things<\/strong><\/p>\n Instead of pointing fingers, wouldn\u2019t it be so much better if we reflected on why things didn\u2019t work out?<\/p>\n Sure, that\u2019s difficult to do when emotions are running high, but it\u2019s an excellent way of handling drawbacks because it turns \u201cfailure\u201d into a learning moment.<\/p>\n Taking time to reflect on the events that transpired allows you to set your emotions aside for a more objective perspective.<\/p>\n It also keeps you from lashing out at people or feeling jealous or envious.<\/p>\n How we choose to deal with failure and rejection reveals the type of person we are\u2026it shows our character. Besides, we learn more from failure and rejection than from success.<\/p>\n By reverse-engineering \u201cfailure\u201d and reflecting on things, you can identify problem areas two work on and change.<\/p>\n Using this process spares you from the guilt, anger, and misery that often comes from personalizing failure. It\u2019s one thing to \u201cfail\u201d but another thing to consider yourself a failure. It creates a venue for healthy conversations with yourself and enables you to focus more on solutions than on being denied what you wanted to have or achieve.<\/p>\n Rise From the Fall<\/strong><\/p>\n A \u201cno\u201d doesn\u2019t always mean no. Getting rejected the first time doesn\u2019t mean you\u2019ll get the same answer after your second attempt.<\/p>\n If you still feel like going after what you want after spending time in reflection, grab the opportunity the next time it presents itself.<\/p>\n Work on any problem areas you identified to increase your chances of getting a \u201cyes\u201d on the second try. If the second attempt doesn\u2019t work out for you, learn from it, then try again.<\/p>\n Know what you want, work hard to get it, but be kind to yourself when life decides not to give it to you.<\/p>\n Practice the habit of looking for lessons in each setback \u2013 like an athlete studying game film. Maybe life is trying to teach you something. You\u2019ll repeat the situation until you learn and grow from it.<\/p>\n You deserve to be happy; life is yours for the taking! So, don\u2019t give up! Persevere. Endure. Believe. And have faith that you are becoming the kind of person who can create the type of life that makes you happy.<\/p>\n Image by eko pramono<\/a> from Pixabay<\/a><\/p>\n<\/span>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" When we were young, our parents had their ways of telling us that we won\u2019t always get what we want. There were times that we resented them for it, but as we got older, we realized those denials actually had nuggets of wisdom in them. It\u2019s easy to conclude that life\u2019s out to get us…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":4429,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"inline_featured_image":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[77,843,1157,1156],"aware":[1752],"class_list":["post-6373","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-all","tag-attitude","tag-disappointment","tag-failure","tag-success","aware-attitude"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n