{"id":6213,"date":"2025-01-30T06:00:00","date_gmt":"2025-01-30T13:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lifestyle.org\/?p=6213"},"modified":"2025-01-23T09:02:24","modified_gmt":"2025-01-23T16:02:24","slug":"take-care-of-yourself-much","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lifestyle.org\/take-care-of-yourself-much\/","title":{"rendered":"Take Care of Yourself Much?"},"content":{"rendered":"

It Is NOT Selfish To\u2026<\/strong>
\n\u2026take care of yourself.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re worth taking care of because your life and happiness matter, too.<\/p>\n

People seem to really struggle with what it means to be selfish and selfless.<\/p>\n

They think it\u2019s selfish to take care of themselves. And somewhere along the way they\u2019ve been led to believe that true selflessness means doing everything for everybody else at their own personal expense. So they never really do anything for themselves because it makes them feel guilty and, well, selfish!<\/p>\n

Balance<\/strong>
\nI know. There\u2019s a fine line between selfishness and selflessness that we must be careful not to cross unless we\u2019re planning on joining Narcissists Anonymous. So let\u2019s get clear about what we\u2019re talking about here.<\/p>\n

Sound Like Anyone You Know?<\/p>\n

Person A<\/strong>
\nLet\u2019s call her person A. She cares only about what she wants and organizes her life around the center of the universe which is \u2013 you guessed it \u2013 her.<\/p>\n

She sees people and their requests as interruptions. She feels put off. And because it might interfere with her getting what she wants, she refuses to help. Her time is her time and she keeps it all to herself. She\u2019s selfish. Narrow minded, too.<\/p>\n

Person B<\/strong>
\nAll day long, person B runs around with his hair on fire doing\/getting everything that everybody else needs or wants.<\/p>\n

He has very little freedom because he allows other people to control his daily agenda. They tell him where to go. They tell what to do. He\u2019s doesn\u2019t have a minute to himself to think because he\u2019s busy.<\/p>\n

Some people would describe his actions as admirable, maybe even sacrificial. They\u2019d be quick to place him in the category of selflessness. Maybe. But I\u2019m not so sure.<\/p>\n

What I do know is that person A and B represent two extremes and what we need to do is meet somewhere in the middle. Balance.<\/p>\n

Leading Yourself With Balance<\/strong>
\nGo ahead and take care of others. Meet their needs. Give. Serve. Live for something bigger than yourself. BUT while doing so, you MUST allocate some of your time and energy to taking care of yourself.<\/p>\n

Sometimes you not only deserve a break but NEED a break. Learn to say no. Learn to be COMFORTABLE saying no.<\/p>\n

If the needs and requests of others are unrealistic or have become just way too much, say no.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re not Atlas. The world WILL survive if you give your shoulders a rest every once in a while.<\/p>\n

You matter. Your life matters. So build time into your day or week just for you. You require time to relax. You need a break from added stress and pressure.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s the really cool part: Taking time for yourself affords you the energy and emotional strength to give MORE of yourself in the long run. Otherwise, you\u2019ll burn out and start giving less and less and less until there isn\u2019t anything more to give.<\/p>\n

A person who has nothing left to give will often feel overwhelmed and depressed. It\u2019s not unusual for them to become angry, bitter, resentful, and frustrated with the world. Why? Because they don\u2019t know how to effectively walk the tightrope between selfishness and selflessness.<\/p>\n

A Lifetime Of Selflessness<\/strong>
\nAuthentic selflessness meets the needs of others AND also the needs of ourselves.<\/p>\n

Maintaining this give-and-take balance makes our service to others sustainable because we\u2019re also taking care of ourselves throughout the journey.<\/p>\n

When we don\u2019t care for ourselves, eventually we lose the ability to care altogether.<\/p>\n

Which would you rather prefer, being selfless for a little while or for your entire life?<\/p>\n

Authentic Selflessness 101<\/strong>
\nOne of the first things you need to decide when choosing to be selfless for the long haul is your boundaries.<\/p>\n

So what are your boundaries?<\/p>\n

How much access to your life will you give?<\/p>\n

What\u2019s off-limits?<\/p>\n

WHO is off limits?<\/p>\n

At what point will you call \u201ctime out\u201d for yourself to rest, recover, and recharge so you can continue serving?<\/p>\n

Taking care of yourself and others is a dance that requires delicate balance.<\/p>\n

Some people serve to the point of burning out because they think that if they take a break people won\u2019t like them anymore.<\/p>\n

The truth is people know what it\u2019s like to be stressed, exhausted, and burned out. They will respect you even more for making your life a priority. And they will value you and your help even more too.<\/p>\n

Create and implement your boundaries to keep selflessness vibrant and alive.<\/p>\n

Strive to avoid extremes of selfishness and selflessness.<\/p>\n

Be a person of strength for yourself and others.<\/p>\n<\/span>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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